As I think about our most recent high school graduates, I reflect on a conversation my wife Kelli and I had with one of our boys who calls Big Oak home. He was a high school senior himself at the time, and we received the opportunity to sit and talk with him about his future. He reflected on his time as a father figure to his brothers and made a series of profoundly moving statements.
“At my age, I have seen many things that a young man should not see. I had dreams to become a better person as I grew older, but wasn’t sure if they would ever really come true.”
I still stand amazed that he had the forethought to know what a young man should see. Such courage that followed as he dared to dream for a new cycle to begin with him. And in his honesty, he recognized the uncertainty that most every child at Big Oak has faced as they question the achievability of their greatest aspirations.
We’ve all felt the same uncertainty at times. We can identify with his momentary self-doubt. Maybe you know someone walking through this season today. But what is most encouraging is what this young man chose to do with it.
“I still miss my father, but having a new family has made it easier to cope with the problems. I’ve learned how to handle life on my own. I didn’t trust, but now I appreciate the most kind and honest people I have ever known. Before coming to Big Oak, I had nothing. I was broken. But I have matured so much. I no longer question who I am. Instead, I question myself on how I can become the best I can possibly be. I know who I am now, thanks to this (Big Oak) community.”
From a young man who inherited the role of father and leader sooner than most, he had a willing heart to bridge the gap. He endured in that role with honor until he and his younger siblings could turn from survival to opportunity. With a grateful spirit, he continues to blaze a path much different from where he came and he embodies an inspiring determination to put one foot in front of the other, choosing to sacrifice what he wants now for what he wants most.
May we receive this young man’s words as both a catalyst for growth in our own lives, and for the benefit of those who dream and simply need a chance.
As we do, generations begin to change.
Keep Planting,
Brodie Croyle, Executive Director
